By Darcy Molloy, Spirit-Led Living Coach
Have you met your Knowing Self?
Maybe you have, but you didn’t recognize it at the time.
The first real time I remember paying attention to mine was when I made my first move toward my (now) husband.
He was involved with the dance community I belonged to, and we had secretly been paying attention to one another for a while. However, contact was hit-and-miss, and neither of us was very good at asserting ourselves. We had only socialized in groups, and hadn’t really interacted much beyond that.
As I had promised myself I would not stalk him, time passed, and I had pretty much given up on the whole scenario when I attended a show at the Aladdin Theater. While waiting in the Will Call line, I was suddenly flooded with the sudden and irrefutable Knowing that he was inside. I heard a voice in my head/heart that said “Everything changes today.”
I couldn’t even begin to explain it, but I knew. I just knew. And I was also terrified.
I sent my friends upstairs to find seats in the balcony while I went into the main hall, under the guise of trying to find my other friends. I walked down the aisle looking for a cluster of the people we knew in common, but didn’t see anyone I recognized. As I walked slowly back up the aisle, I heard my name called. And there he was. On the end of the aisle. Alone. He had been planning to come with some mutual friends, but they had bailed on him. He was there by himself.
Long story short, everything changed that day. Because I just Knew.
While it’s true that I now Know things on a professional basis, it is also true that everyone has the ability to tap into this Knowing Self. Everyone. It’s not just a gift that professional psychics use to wow their clients. It’s within you. It just is. It IS you.
The You that is eternal is where the Knowing resides.
This is not to be confused with knowledge, which is the accumulation of facts through experience or learning. Knowledge involves the reasoning mind, which is actually what we’re getting away from here.
What I’m talking about is Knowing without any previous experience. Knowing without thinking. In fact, Knowing only comes when the rational mind gets out of the way entirely.
When information or understanding arrives while the mind is busy and you’re not actively grinding on an idea or rationally trying to work out the answer to a question, and the answer just pops in, that’s Knowing.
Like when you can just tell that it’s not in your best interest to go to yoga tonight, for no good reason, and it turns out a week later that the teacher had the flu and half the class came down with it. That’s Knowing.
Or when you’re wondering how on earth you’re going to pay the mortgage this month as you are transitioning jobs and your pay schedule is off, and you decide to meditate to help you calm down from your freak out. And when you finally manage to quiet your chattering mind – “Aha!” – you need to look in the junk drawer. When you do, you find a birthday card from your sister from 6 months ago (shoved in there before the dinner guests arrived), and it contains a check from when she paid you back from your shared hotel room in New Orleans a year ago, which is just enough to make the ends meet.
Knowing. It creeps in when we look the other way more often than not, but if we cultivate it, welcome it, make it an honored guest, it tends to stick around.
To do this, it’s important to note the conditions when Knowing arrives. What were you doing when you Knew? Here are three common situations where you might experiencing Knowing:
While involved in mundane tasks.
Often we’re doing mundane things like folding laundry or washing dishes when the insight pops in. The mind is occupied with other things that don’t require any major application, and suddenly the light bulb goes on!
While engaged in movement or physical activity.
Breath is a vital part of connection and alignment, and being grounded in the body is essential as well. As we move deliberately, and the mind is occupied with physical tasks, the Knowing Self is free to receive. I find my clearest guidance comes when I’m out on a walk, connecting with nature, or breathing in natural rhythm.
Of course, the best tool to cultivate for consistent “Aha!” moments is, you guessed it, meditation. Meditation is a practice where we start to deliberately train the mind to behave. The thoughts come and go, but as we practice inattention to them, we start to enter the space of “no-mind,” where the Knowing lives.
Often I will meditate on a mantra or image for 15-20 minutes before checking in on any questions I have. By that point I’ve reached a quiet enough state to receive the information I desire.
There are plenty of other tools that can be used to increase the ability to access this state of Truth, but these are the most important basics.
When we make a habit of checking in with our Knowing, and base our choices on Knowing rather than our habits of thought, life goes more smoothly. Possibilities open up where none were previously visible. Connections emerge and confidence grows. And where we were stuck, we discover freedom.
What would the world be like if we could all be tapped into this place of inner Truth, where we trusted one another and ourselves? Can you even imagine it?
It’s a world I hope for, and as I cultivate my Knowing and watch my life improve, I begin to see glimmers of this shift. I believe each of us Knows something, within the truest versions of ourselves, something that the world needs, and which we are called to share.
I invite you to breathe deep and listen. What do you Know?
Leave your comments below! I look forward to reading them.
Darcy Molloy helps committed and spiritually-driven individuals to consistently uncover their Truth, and walk a path of guided action toward their Reason for Being. She is a Spirit-Led Living Coach, a Channel and a Healer.